The Freshman Perspective: Away From the One I Love

By SABLE BRUNO
Staff Writer    

One thing I really had a hard time dealing with is being away from my boyfriend. We both attend different schools and we are too far from each other to visit every weekend, so we are left with having to wait for school vacations and using Oovoo as means for seeing each other. It is harder than I thought it would be; I am trying hard not to miss him so much, but I am managing. I am sure there are other freshmen that are dealing with the same thing. I found that there are some helpful tips to keep you from dying of missing that significant other.

1.    If he/she has a laptop with a camera, make sure they sign up for a web chatting website. (Without it, you will begin to miss their face a bit more than usual).

2.    If you both have hectic schedules, try and set a time during the day or night where you both can have each other, even for a little while.

3.    Make sure you both are responsible when partying; sometimes couples find that once in college they can do what they want because they are not being watched – not a good idea.

4.    Always stay positive; many couples fail because they feel they cannot pull off long distance, but it is because they are not trying hard enough.

I understand that it may be hard to put so much trust in your significant other only because you are not around to monitor their moves or you just have trouble being confident in them. But if you really love your other, it should not be hard. That also does not mean that you can feel  your other has to be in their room locked away while you have fun and do things you know you should not. Also, some people who are in a relationship like to act single; it is not fair to your other who is probably being faithful to you. If you feel as if you know you will not be able to keep your end of the bargain, do not waste their time. End things on a mutual basis so no one is hurt.

If you honor and love the one you are with, I guarantee you things will work out. It is working for my significant other and I, why can’t it work for others?